Dating customs in vietnam
Before the engagement day, each family chooses a representative.This person is a member of the family which has a happy life and a high ranking position in the family.
Besides choosing the representatives, both families sit together to negotiate the dowry and the good time for the ceremony.The time is chosen very carefully based on the propitious time and day of lunar calendar.The gifts are prepared by the fiancé family several days before the engagement ceremony.Traditionally the gifts was placed a number of trays. trays depends on the condition of the fiancé family.The gifts are covered by the red color paper or cloth.In Vietnamese beliefs, the odd number and the red color will bring luck to the young couple.
The gifts include betel leaves, areca nut fruits (trầu, cau), wine, tea, husband-wife cake (bánh phu thê) and sticky rice…
one of the most important gift is the whole roasted pig which placed in a large tray.
Vietnamese engagement ceremony is an important ceremony before the wedding which involve both fiancé’s and fiancée’s families.
In the past, engagement ceremony was considered very important even than the wedding ceremony because it was an official day to announce the wedding, the relationship between two families.
Nowadays, it is less important and varied for each region.
In the big city the engagement ceremony could be celebrated 1 day before (and 1 month in the countryside) the wedding ceremony.