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Instead of always fishing in the “work” pond, or the “Friday-night bar-scene” pond, switch it up and also fish in the “volunteer at the animal shelter” pond or the “local community college digital photography course” pond every now and then. Step outside of your comfort zone and try new things.
Or, did you try one “different” pond outside of your usual routine, have a really bad time, and then decide never to do that again?Intellectually, we all know this makes sense, but putting it into action can often be tougher.Great dates aren’t just going to show up on your front porch.You have to be visible to let people know you are available..” ~ John Buchan Back in February, I spoke with a friend who told me that she was struggling with the dating scene. It might induce a bit of anxiety to visit a new pond.She felt as if she was hanging around the same people over and over again. I didn’t have a whole lot of sympathy for her situation, and merely suggested, “If you are always fishing in the same pond, you are always going to be catching the same fish.” Period. She chuckled as she clearly knew what I meant, but I wasn’t sure that she was inspired to go find any new ponds in which to fish. For many people, it’s human nature to avoid making ourselves uncomfortable and pushing outside of our comfort zones.
Going to find new ponds would take her outside of her comfort zone.
I told this friend that no one said fishing in new ponds was going to be easy.
Some may not be stocked with the kind of fish she wants. The challenge is that she will never know which situation she will encounter if she doesn’t at least try fishing in a new pond. ” These friends told me that there weren’t enough ponds in our area.
The old adage, “nothing ventured, nothing gained,” makes all the sense in the world. They tell me that I have access to lots of different ponds because I work outside the home, I travel for business, and I am involved in several community associations.
I was out with a different set of friends a few weeks ago when talk turned to dates — the good, the bad and the ugly, and as the conversation went around it turns out that two of the women had gone out with the same guy. They tell me that since they are stay-at-home moms or since they have “jobs” and not “careers” that they don’t have access to the same number of ponds. We all have multiple ponds within our own little bubbles.
We just have to think about it, let go of what’s comfortable, grab our rod and reel, and head out!