Online dating communication tips for women
You should only text to say “I’m running 5 minutes late” or “Thanks so much for a fun night! Online dating was actually less scary than it initially sounded. During my six months, I communicated with some strange people and received even stranger emails, but most everyone respected my space and nobody made me feel unsafe. Rules Can Be Helpful, but Leave Room for an Exception: After numerous dates, I came to some conclusions based upon initial judgments of peoples' profiles and communications.
Not only can you learn more about your romantic prospects, you can learn how they feel about you. A good male friend of mine said, “If a guy is really into you, he’s going to stay in touch..keep you off the market.” I’ve kept this little gem in my head for five whole years. Anyone I’ve met who was crazy about me, and who I’ve been crazy about, has never let more than a couple of days pass without sending an email, text, or picking up the phone.This might not be a strategy you want to employ after date numero uno, but after a few great dates, go for it.Whether you choose to send a message via Ok C, Facebook, text, regular old email, or pick up the scary phone and call (gasp!), you’re sending more than a message in your choice of delivery. In dating, moving forward is important, even if it’s baby steps.I know what you’re thinking—everyone just texts these days. I’ve gotten a few phone calls over the years, and they are damn sexy. If you find that someone is responding to half of your texts, starting conversations and then dropping them, or texting you so erratically that you can’t tell what is going on, move on.My advice is to go for the gold: a phone call will make you stand out from the crowd. Instead look at someone’s communication from a global perspective. Psychologists have proven that people who communicate similarly have a better chance at a relationship. People who use function words (such as “the,” “this,” “though,” “I,” “and,” “an,” “there,” “that”) in a similar way at a similar rate during the initial stages of dating are more likely to still be seeing each other a few months later. Now you can look at the communication between you and your dates a bit more intricately—and buff up your communication skills, should you see fit.
But if you’re feeling less brave, cut to email, where you can express yourself more poetically than text. Are they sending you texts or emails that attempt to line up future dates? “This is not because similar people are attracted to each other,” says psychologist James Pennebaker. It's that when we are around people that we have a genuine interest in, our language subtly shifts.” Function words are impossible to count in conversation (we’re paying too much attention to content), but a little analysis of email and text messages couldn’t hurt. Remember, though, the most important thing in dating is to communicate from your heart—whether it is via text, email or the magical phone.
Oh, and make date plans without going back and forth fifty times.
I’m always fascinated by the way people communicate with each other.
How they communicate (email, text, phone call, Facebook message, etc.); when they communicate (early morning, afternoon, before bed); what they communicate; and why.
In dating, there are a number of key predictors of success that have to do with communication: the frequency, the medium used, the content being communicated, and communication symmetry.
If you aren’t paying attention to these things, you might want to start.